We all go through tough times and I’ve been struggling recently so decided it was time to pick myself up and find my happy again. So to start I took myself off for breakfast last Tuesday morning, my favourite of french toast with bacon, caramel sauce and of course some fruit (just for balance). When I arrived at the cafe, the waitress showed me to my table, gave me the menu and then said, ‘how can I help you my love’? Well she got my attention so obviously I gave her my order. As she was taking the menu back, she asked ‘would you like a paper?’ and again I thought how lovely and said yes. Anyway, I was reading away when she arrived with my order annoucing at the top of her voice, ‘cooked with love and served with love, enjoy’. Of course I replied, received with love, thank you. Well the endorphines were flying around my body and I was feeling fabulous again. Feeling so great, I decided to extend this happy moment and went for a walk along the river down by UL Boathouse. The sound of the birds singing was so loud, I couldn’t ignore it and there on the pontoon was this Herring (see image), standing proud and powerful. So I thought to myself, what message am I receiving and decided it’s ok to stand in my own power and be my true self which of course you all know by now is to Just Be Happy & Healthy.
Now some cynics might think, the waitress was looking for a big tip or it’s her job to be nice but I just felt she knew I needed that little extra that morning. People can read us and if we take a step back and see how people are and not take it personally, we can feel what they need in that moment. Pay attention to those you interact with. They don’t know how you woke up this morning, but recognise the kindness people are offering you and trust me you’ll feel better.
So yes, I’ll struggle on, pick myself up and continue to be #justbe #50andfeelingfabulous and sending you all lots of love and light.
So in my last blog I mentioned I was turning 50 and what this milestone meant to me. I’ve been visualising and manifesting how, what, where and most importantly how I would feel for my 50th year which is to be 50andfeelingfabulous. Well to say it has exceeded my expectations so far would be the understatement of the year and I’m only 3 months in. Yes, it was my actual Birthday so most of the fun was packed into the last month, but I still have a few bits to look forward to.
In review, my 50th celebrations started with a Revas Spa Day in Adare with a very dear friend and got me ready for my day out with my childhood buddies, my sister, nieces and sister-in-law starting with Afternoon Tea at The Savoy followed by drinks and dancing at 101. These ladies know everything about me and support me no matter what happens in my life. Everyone needs to nurture friendships like these. I also danced my heart out, a goal for my 50th following my hip surgery last summer. Oh and I was wearing my heels so a double aheivement.
The following week I had a couple of midweek lunches with the first at The Coach House, Adare Manor. This was a real treat and surprise for me with, very dear friends and colleagues from my previous job as an Event Manager. They know exactly how I like things and they didn’t disappoint I’ll tell you. Then I had an impromtu lunch at my house with the ‘Gals’. The Gals and I trained together at the Holistic Centre of Excellence, so although they only know me a few years, they have also become amazing friends and are a great support to me.
Then came the big celebration with my husband and a very long awaited trip to Cuba. Jim and I were booked to visit Cuba back in 2010 for our honeymoon. But, we had to cancel as Jim past out, feel down the stairs and ended up in hospital a couple of days after our wedding and a day before we were due to fly. Yes, it was a very tense few days but he was diagnosed with a brain virus and had 3 months at home recovering. So you can imagine our excitment at finally going to Cuba and it didn’t disappoint. Sun soaked days followed by a couple of Mojitos on the veranda before dinner. The architecture, the people, the history was facinating. We even got to spend a evening at Floridida Bar and Restaurant, the very place Ernest Hemmingway spent his days (and nights) drinking daiquiris which of course we had to try and very nice they were too. But, you will also appreciate the quieter moments we had just sitting in the sun reading a book (Becoming by Michelle Obama, and yes I would highly recommend it), or a leisurely swim because it’s just too hot, or beautiful walks just wondering and observing the amazing architecture and atmosphere of Havana. We also stopped in Toronto on our way back home and got to visit Niagra Falls and see the Raptors Vs Knicks Basketball Game, very exciting for us as we last saw both teams play each other in Maddison Square Gardens in New York a few years back. We are big Knicks Fans but Jim’s favourite Basketball player is Leonard who is currently playing for the Raptors.
And then to top off March, I got the ‘glad rags’ on again and attended the Mid West Cancer Foundation – Butterfly Ladies Luncheon at The Savoy Hotel and got to catch up with old and new friends. A lovely afternoon topped off with not just 1 but 2 prizes from the draw.
To say I feel blessed, fortunate and grateful to everyone in my life and of course #50andfeelingfabulous and #justbe
Love & Light
Of course, I’ve been working away too and it’s always great to see our
favourite Limerick Instagram blogger @sineadscurvystyle visit the
Just Be Clinic for Reflexology. Sinead suffers with lower back pain
caused by sciatica and gets great relief from Reflexology. She visits once
a month to maintain her general well-being as she’s on the go all the time
attending events for her blogging and of course her singing. Thank you for
your continued support Sinead.
So while I was swimming this morning I was thinking back to this time last year. I knew I was going to be having surgery and that my mother would also have major surgery before she started doing dialysis. It was somewhat daunting but here we are a year later and all is well. How blessed we are that everything worked out.
Then I started thinking about how 2019 is going and how I want to continue the year. Well this month I turn 50 and I have a few treats planned and really excited about the year ahead. Then I started to check in with my physical body as I moved through the water and thought ‘I feel fabulous’. Then I thought how do I feel mentally and emotionally and again I thought ‘I feel fabulous’ Even now I feel fabulous writing this even though I did lose my swimming hat, goggles and ear plugs in the dressing room, but I’m sure someone just put them in their bag by accident and they’ll be returned. Anyway I’ve decided I want to feel like this all year, so my moto and hastag for this year will be #50andfeelingfabulous
Since I started Just Be, everyday I work towards being happy and healthy and generally, well 90% of the time, I am. I honestly love the life I have created. That won’t change and like always there will be bumps along the way. But what does happy and healthy feel like? Well for me, this year anyway, it’s feeling fabulous!
Like you, things don’t always work out. The car breaks down, the washing machine dies, appointments get cancelled, we loose stuff, the list is endless. But these things are fixable and temporary so I focus on the bigger things like my family and friends, my home, my work and the things that make me feel fabulous. I practice what I preach by taking care of myself first before others and I know who I can rely on when I need support. Trust me I don’t do it all myself. Yes I put the work in but I get twice as much back.
So I challenge you to also feel fabulous every day. Take a moment each day and think ‘how am I doing?’ and change it if you don’t like how you feel.
Love & light
PS: I’m having a great evening looking through old photos. Keep an eye on Instagram or Facebook for more #50andfeelingfabulous
So how do you know how you want to feel and do you practise self care? Self care starts with how you want to feel? It’s different for everyone and the list is endless including things like I want to feel loved, accepted, appreciated, abundant, balanced, free, happy, healthy, joy, peace, etc., etc.
More simply put, we have positive feelings and negative feelings. We want to increase the postive feelings and reduce the negative feelings. This takes practice, practice, practice until you realise 2-3 core feelings you want to feel everyday. Yes, you will experience other feelings too, generally about things outside of your control but everything else you can decide to feel positive about it or negative about it.
So how do you know which feelings to focus on and which to delete? Well, I can help by doing Reiki on you and accessing which areas of your body we need to focus on. For example, I recently worked with someone who felt inferior to colleagues at work. During the treatment her throat chakra came up as unbalanced and I felt that this person needed to be more assertive. The person agreed they would love to say what they want and we worked on how they could do exactly this without offending anyone.
I work on myself everyday to achieve my feelings of being happy and healthy by making decisions that will enhance these feelings rather than not. An example, to feel healthy I need to work in a healthy way which means doing what I love as a therapist and this also makes me feel happy doing what I am so passionate about. To feel healthy I need to eat healthy which for me means being organised and knowing what I will have for breakfast, lunch and dinner. Do I snack, yes, I just ate a biscuit from the Christmas tin but I enjoyed it and I’m not going to beat myself up about it. Why should I, it’s only a biscuit. BUT, because I’m not hungry and have prepared my meals I don’t eat the whole tin in one go. Yes, this would have happened in the past.
Learn more about Reiki or to book a Reiki appointment and see if I can help you FEEL more positive.
Love & light
So it’s November and I’m wondering how I got here as life has been a whilwind lately of emotions, change and learning how to adjust. As you know from previous emails, in September my Mum had major surgery to remove her kidney with cancer and is now on dialysis for the rest of her life. Whilst I was prepared in some way for the logistics of my Mum’s surgery and the changes that would entale, I was in no way prepared for the emotional trauma and stress myself and my family have gone through. Yes I am strong and resilient thanks to my work and practice of Reiki and Mindfulness, but sometimes life just gets you down.
In the mist of all this I did reach out to my very trusted friends and work colleagues. I also attended the National Women’s Enterprise Day, with Limerick Enterprise Office at Adare Manor in October and to say it was inspirational is an understatement. All the speakers had compelling stories to tell about their lives and the stuggles they have overcome. What struck me most however, was all the speakers gave ‘top tips’ and everyone of them had ‘self care’ as a priority. With all that was going on I forgot to care for myself. What was I thinking? I live and breath to ‘Just Be’ and here I was worrying about everyone and everything before myself.
So I let go of the outcome and trusted that my Mum and all of us around her would cope and adjust to our new normal. Yes there has been immense change but here we are now in November and all is well I’m delighed to say.
I’ve also observed some of you have been through similar truamtic feelings, especially those of you who have lost a loved one. One regular visitor to my clinic, who recently lost her Mum, told me about the book ‘Bringing Dealth to Life’ by Patricia Scanlon, Dr. Mary Helen Hensley, Aidan Storey and Pamela Young. It’s a beautiful book exploring life, death and the afterlife. If you or someone you know if going through grief or an emotional challenge, I strongly recommend this book.
I guess the important lesson from all of this is to always continue self care, as that is what pulls you through the good and the not so good. So if I can help you this November please book now or call call/text 0868968409 for an appointment.